Step 1: Forms

July 12, 2007
10:02 am

Our adoption process has officially begun!

Not to be anti-climactic but the first step in the adoption process is simply calling the agency and ordering the packet of forms. Because we've adopted through this agency before, we are able to skip the initial step which is an orientation seminar. Alas, that is the only step that is skipped. And really, there shouldn't be any shortcuts to adopting a baby.

We received the packet this weekend and are mailing the forms today! How's that for a quick turnaround?! When we adopted Lillian, they gave us a big packet of forms that we had to fill out by hand. Then once we submitted them, they asked us to re-do a couple of them electronically. I opened my files and a 3.5" hard disk fell out. This time we received a big folder that contained only a cd. What a difference 3 years makes!

Here's the list of forms in this packet, prepare to be amazed:

• Intake form (1 per parent) - General stats similar to what you would fill out at a doctor's office
• Adoptive Family Information form - Details on each parent's history including occupation, education, physical characteristics, heritage, hobbies, etc. And a brief summary of child care plans and values, experiences and opportunities that we plan to offer our child.
• Financial form - Detailed summary of income and expenses.
• Health history (1 per parent) - Detailed family medical history for self and relatives. I guess they want to make sure we'll be around to raise this kid?
• Grievance policy form - Agreement not to go postal or sue them or anything.
• Release of information (1 per parent ) - Signing away our rights to any sliver of privacy that may have existed. Oh well, we've got nothin' to hide.
• Acknowledgement of Adoption Assistance Availability - Hmmm, this is a new one. We've signed it but have no idea what it's for. Guess I'd better call them and ask...
• Authorization for Credit Background Check (1 per parent)- Yep, they even check our credit report.
• Consent for Criminal Records Check (1 per parent) - Enables the Department of Human Services to check for any criminal history including any child abuse claims.
• Copy of Federal Income Tax Return - I guess this is making sure you didn't lie on your financial statement.

Once we complete and return the forms, an adoption counselor will contact us to arrange our first of many meetings. The paperwork is overwhelming. The wait is stifling. But the outcome is SOOOOOOO worth it. Adoption is a lot less spontaneous than the traditional method of making a baby but hey, it works!